Writing the Proposal or Vows: Organizing Your Pre-Writing Thoughts
Ok, so now you are ready to take all of those thoughts, wishes, hopes and dreams for the two of you and put them into an organized group of words? First, you will want to ask yourself how you are going to get him or her to notice you. If this is going to be unexpected, and most likely you will be nervous, or if this is expected and you both are going to be nervous, consider opening with a bit of humor. This will break the ice and at least get you both smiling. Next, start with the past, make you way through the present, and end with any future goals that you wish to reach with your new or potential life-mate. When all of this is done, pause right there. Tomorrow, we will touch on the editing process. Yes, while this is not your college term paper, it still needs to be edited; so sit tight!
Getting Started: Prewriting
Ok, so you’ve decided you want to try to write a proposal or vow yourself. Great, now where to begin, you ask? Pre-writing, or brainstorming, is the first step in the writing process. To being your writing, I want you to fold your paper into three columns and ask yourself these questions.
Column one - What is it about this person that you really like? Was there moment of truth where the two of you were tested, and this person’s character or trait that you admire came through to win over your heart? (Basically, we will call this column the past)
Column two – How long have you two been together? Have you seen any major growth improvements as a couple that have led you to this day? Why did you pick now to ask (right amount of time together, expecting a baby, something told you inside it was right, etc.) him/her to marry you? For the second column, you will be dealing with your relationship specifically as a couple in the present tense.
Column three – Your future goals as a couple are addressed here. Some questions to ask yourself in this column are: Where do you see the two of yourself years from now? Will you stand by him/her in both the good and bad times ahead? If step-children are involved will you make the commitment to be in their lives forever? Think about this column long and hard; while you are not technically “selling yourself” like in a job interview, but standing firm in a commitment which, for most people, is even more powerful, as for many it is in a house of worship where these commitments will be made.
Look for my next step, putting it all together in words, tomorrow.
Introduction to the Proposals and Vows Blog
What is the Proposals and Vows blog? Well, I am glad you asked. If you have ever wanted a way to help write, practice and deliver that perfect Engagement Proposal or Wedding Day Vow; look no further! In addition to the “written and spoken” words associated with these events, ideas how to incorporate your proposal and vow into your wedding or engagement event.
Specialized wedding and vows for blended families, long-distance romances, renewal of vows and other unique services will also be addressed. Count on me to be your one-stop go-to person for all things related to Wedding Vows and Engagement Proposals. As the owner of a vow and proposal service, learn techniques from the professionals to ensure your perfect moment will be expressed with your most intimate and heart-felt thoughts.
