Proposals and Vows

Ok, so you’ve decided you want to try to write a proposal or vow yourself. Great, now where to begin, you ask? Pre-writing, or brainstorming, is the first step in the writing process. To being your writing, I want you to fold your paper into three columns and ask yourself these questions.

Column one - What is it about this person that you really like? Was there moment of truth where the two of you were tested, and this person’s character or trait that you admire came through to win over your heart? (Basically, we will call this column the past)

Column two – How long have you two been together? Have you seen any major growth improvements as a couple that have led you to this day? Why did you pick now to ask (right amount of time together, expecting a baby, something told you inside it was right, etc.) him/her to marry you? For the second column, you will be dealing with your relationship specifically as a couple in the present tense.

Column three – Your future goals as a couple are addressed here. Some questions to ask yourself in this column are: Where do you see the two of yourself years from now? Will you stand by him/her in both the good and bad times ahead? If step-children are involved will you make the commitment to be in their lives forever? Think about this column long and hard; while you are not technically “selling yourself” like in a job interview, but standing firm in a commitment which, for most people, is even more powerful, as for many it is in a house of worship where these commitments will be made.

Look for my next step, putting it all together in words, tomorrow.

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